I have seen some pretty interesting comments on feminism and I have to say they are pretty enlightening on how feminism only hurts women as it does men. Have you seen the huge number of single moms working to raise their baby, or the silence of feminists when women are mistreated in the Islamic world and other parts of the world, or how femininity is attacked in favor of a more butch femininity.
Traditionally in the past men and women shared work because that was something that helped make it easier, much like working in a team where different individuals are assigned. Feminism regards that to be sexist, as some sort of patriarchal method of keeping women down. Women stayed at home to cook, clean the house and take care of the kids while the men worked long hours of usually hard labor to make money for the family; both roles were highly respected and deemed important for the family. Generally women could go outside particularly to buy groceries, clean clothes at the river or things of that nature. They weren’t locked up in the house like the feminists claimed. It wasn’t Saudi Arabia.
Anyway, now we have women who are expected to work out of the house and have kids. What’s ironic is the feminist lamentation of cultural expectations on women. Traditionally in the past women stayed at home because it was more convenient for her especially during pregnancy in which she doesn’t need the stress of hard labor for her or the baby Imagine a woman could take a break whenever she wanted to. That wasn’t the case for the man who was working out of the house on another person’s terms. Now the labor traditionally expected on men is now expected on women while the role of childbearing remains. So more stress has been placed on women as they are expected to have two major roles: the breadwinner and the child-bearer. At the same time it seems more men are leaving women they have impregnated and leaving it entirely to the women to take care of the children; even in married couples, the women are expected to work and take care of the kids while the man virtually has no role anymore.
Then there’s the fact that in many parts of the world a man can have many wives simultaneously while a woman can have only one man at a time. On top of that a man can have concubines or sex slaves. Feminists complain about a wage gap here or about anti-abortion laws, but they fail to address those issues or how women are not permitted to have a formal education in many parts of the world. They fail to address the concept of child brides and arranged marriages where a younger woman or girl is arranged to marry somebody whom she may never have met in her life or doesn’t even like.
Ironically feminists hate gender roles, but they tend to go more for masculinity and against femininity. It is funny how so many feminists put on a masculine look: e.g. short hair, tight bras to look more flat chested, etc. Why do they hate femininity and why do they simultaneously hate gender roles (as they say) while acting and looking boyish? Is it to put on the bad boy persona? Perhaps. It is something I have thought about. I don’t think gender roles can be understood in a vacuum (e.g. boys from Mars and girls from Venus), but it is pretty interesting that there is such a contradiction in feminism. I really don’t mind bit of tomboy; after all my favorite pony is a tomboy.
So here is the question for feminists. How can you expect to have credibility on calling out what you see as sexism if you cannot address the issues you have caused or have failed to call out? I can list a number of ways in which feminism has caused problems for men, women and children. I am curious as to how feminism is still relevant in Western society after all the privileges women have in our society? I am curious as to how feminists can explain the issues they helped to cause like placing more stress on women to work for a living, give birth and take care of children, while they wonder where the men are in all this.